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It's always exciting when the clocks spring forward and all of a sudden our evenings open up with a world of opportunity. There's so many more things to do when it's 7pm and it's still day light. Whether you're newly dating, or in a relationship, we've rounded up 10 great spring date ideas for the next couple of months.

1. Rooftop Film Club

Outdoor films are no new thing anymore, but do they ever loose their novelty?! The answer is no. Starting in May, when hopefully the chilly air has disappeared, Roof Top Film Club kicks off in various roof top locations across London. Choose a movie from the classic or newbie selections. With amazing skylines, deck chairs and atmosphere, this is a top date idea.

2. Beer & Bread Festival

May day is upon us, and there is an abundance of things to do. One being, The Beer and Bread Festival with Brixton Brewery & the Brixton Windmill. If you didn't know that Brixton had a windmill, well now you do! And guess what? This year is it's 200th anniversary, and this festival is one of it's highlights. Expect beer and ... bread.

3. Gir Lion Lodge

Gir Lion Lodge is a brand new development in London Zoo, launching this Spring. It's hidden away within the Land of the Lions. Guests can stay (if they dare) in decorated lodges, with a 2 course dinner included. A date idea sure to bring out your wild sides.

4. Chiswick House

Wandering around a Stately home is quite a civilised date idea, and if you didn't know already London has quite a few. The good thing about Chiswick house is that you can wander the grounds for free. So pick a sunny day and set out for a cultured afternoon.

5. Green Man Ahoy

Green Man are re launching their boat parties and this one sets sail on the 7th of May! Ride along the Thames whilst being entertained by a curated mix of DJs and more festival fun.

6. Udderbelly

The purple cow is back this Spring/ Summer in Southbank from the 7th April onwards. Hosting comedy, circus, theatre and more. Have a moo - vellous time!

7. Handel & Hendrix

One for the music lovers, Jimi Hendrix's flat has now been added to the Handel Exhibition to introduce a permanent exhibition to his former home in Mayfair. You can tour how he once lived, browse his record collections where his guitar still stands in pride of place.

8. London Coffee Festival

Unless you're in an American Diner is there such a thing as bottomless coffee anymore? Well, there is this weekend when caffeine fiends unite at London Coffee Festival. A VIP ticket gets you free coffee and food tastings, a goody bag, access to workshops and more. 

9. Secret Brunch

More like a party than a brunch, this is is an exclusive members club, in a very secret place, revealed at the very last minute. The theme is usually revealed two days before the event. A fun double date idea? Just don't expect ham and eggs.

10. Druid St. Market

A less well known market to it's neighbours, Borough and Maltby Street, Druid St Market offers the best of, "Made in London" every Saturday. With food, homewares, Artists and more, this Market is a great place to mooch with your date or partner.

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What is the meaning of life? Everyone would have their own subjective response to this question. When it really comes down to it, what is the one thing that is a constant (hopefully) in your life? It has to be love. To quote a well known film, "Love actually is, all around us." Whether it’s the love you have for your family, your siblings or the love you have for your partner, when all else fails, we can live off love and still be happy. Romantic love is the kind you can spot a mile off. If someone you know has just met someone, it’s blindingly obvious from the spring in their step to the "everything is amazing" air about them, that they've fallen in love. Imagine if you could be the one behind this new found happiness? Everyone loves to meddle, and everyone at some point knows someone single.

Here are 10 ways you can make someone very happy by helping them find love:

  1. Flattery goes a long way

Read these two sentences below. Which sounds best?

“People tell me I’m the funniest person they know”

“My brother is honestly the funniest person I know.”

We always say it, but writing an online dating profile is up there with writing a CV. No one likes doing it, and yet it determines any kind of success. Isn’t it a hell of a lot easier to write about someone else than yourself? You know your loved one inside out, especially if it’s your single parent or sibling. By matchmaking on Date My, you can champion someone you love by writing their profile for them. The best part is you’re more likely to mention attributes they never would, which works out to be very flattering, or more importantly, honest.

Going into online dating alone can be daunting. Anyone that reads a profile written about themselves is bound to get a big confidence boost and feel ready to enter the world with a profile they can feel proud of.

  1. 2. Stops Bad Habits

If you’ve read, How To Avoid Dating The Wrong Type Of People you’ll see that some people can slip into bad relationship habits.  The only way to snap out of this is by choosing someone completely opposite to your usual type. This is where you, the Matchmaker can help. You may know the reason for their unsuccessful dates or relationships. From an outside perspective it’s a lot easier to see what that person needs. Just be careful you’re not pushing it too far and actually setting them up on a date they won’t enjoy.

  1. Help them get out of a rut

You might know someone who has completely lost his or her confidence after coming out of a bad break up, divorce, or a string of really deflating dates. This can easily escalate into complete avoidance, where that person is now hiding from the dating world and refusing to do anything about it. What you can do is pick that person up and say, I am taking your love life into my own hands now. Usually, they won’t refuse. Finding love can feel like a burden if you’re struggling along trying to find it. Don’t be hesitant in approaching the idea. If you’re fearing the response remember that most of the time that person is secretly wanting your help and will be open to it. A little gentle persuasion if not!

  1. It saves them time

One common reason for someone being single is that they don’t have time to date. Especially single parents, who often struggle to meet someone new in every day life. Online dating has made this easier for a lot of people, with the prospect of a date just a few clicks away, even in your PJ’s. However, it still can feel like a chore. A lot of singles create a profile, sign up and then never do anything about it. You can do all of the hard work for them, searching for matches and setting up dates. All they have to do is turn up!

  1. Builds Self Esteem

Even if you don’t find them the one, all the dates you line up will be great practice. If someone hasn’t been on a date in a while the expectation of one can be quite nerve racking, and the longer they put it off the worse that fear gets. This isn’t the case for everyone, but by you giving your loved one a nudge in the right direction it’s bound to do wonders for their self esteem.

  1. Introductions

When you’re being introduced by someone, it feels less embarrassing doesn’t it? You don’t have to worry about making first contact. Once you’ve matched your loved one with someone, they know the feelings mutual. They can thrive of this introduction and feel confident either writing the first message, or receiving it!

  1. Surprise Element

Similar to number 2, as you’re doing the choosing, you have the power to match a loved one with the kind of person you might have always seen them with. This might take them by surprise. It will be refreshing for them to get someone else’s opinion when they think they know best.

  1. Mindset Shift

Reminding someone how great it is to be dating, rather than the negatives can help shift someone’s mindset completely. If they’re actively dating and putting themselves out there, they are then more likely to meet someone just by being more approachable. So, even if they don’t click with someone online, you may have created a lot more options for them, just by paving the way.

  1. Positive Outlook

The self-esteem you’ve helped someone build won’t just have a positive effect on their love life. By helping someone feel more confident in this area it will also filter out into other aspects of their life, like their lifestyle and maybe even their job.

  1. A relationship & more

If your matchmaking leads to a successful relationship you can wear your Matchmaker crown with pride. This is the ultimate goal for you ( and us) and if you’ve succeeded, chances are you’ve made someone very very happy. Good work! 

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Have you ever been a wingman for someone who was looking for love?

This week we have a guest blog from a Male's perspective onhelping someone find love.

I was and the first time I proudly called myself a wingman, I messed up. I gave my friend the worst advice you can possibly give. As a result, he ended up in a toxic relationship that cost him four months of his precious lifetime.

Sorry, buddy.

But I learned a lot in the process. While I was embarking on my own dating journey, I learned what it really means to be a wingman. And no, it’s not about helping your friend to approach this one girl at the bar. It’s about so much more.

Today I want to share everything I learned in the past couple of years. My own trials and errors and my occupation as a professional dating coach taught me how to support, motivate and inspire someone who wants to find love.

I am writing this article from a male point of view because, well, I am a man. Nevertheless, everything I say is also true for women. So if you are a woman and you want to help your friend by being the best winggirl in the history of womankind, you can follow the same steps.

Let’s have a look at what it really means to help your friend to make the right decisions on his journey towards love.

You Have to Know Who He Really Is

The first quality that distinguishes a bad wingman from a great wingman is the knowledge about the person he is guiding. If you don’t know who the man you want to help really is, you can’t help him. It is really that simple.

The stronger the bond with your friend, the more likely is it that you can help him to succeed.

Let me give you an example to show you what I mean:

In case you don’t know whether the man you are helping is an introvert or an extrovert, it will be impossible for you to give him the right tips and to think about the right dating strategies. You might advise him to hit the clubs, even though the last thing he wants is to talk to party girls. He might be more interested in meeting the kind of girls that rather hang out in bookstores and libraries.  

When you know everything about the past and the personality of the man you want to help, it becomes nearly impossible to give him the wrong advice.

You Have to Remind Him of What He Wants

What if you know exactly who he is, but his wants are not in alignment with his personality? Well, this is a problem that a lot of men have to deal with. They think that they want A while they actually want B. Please allow me to explain.

You know that your friend, who is a natural introvert, loves educated and intellectual women who know more about Charles Bukowski than about Justin Bieber. You know that he wants a healthy relationship with a woman who has the same interests and who just gets him.

One night he meets this incredibly beautiful woman who loves to party, to drink and who has never read a book in her entire life. What terrible mistake do most men make in this situation? They are attracted to her and now they try to rationalize why she is “the one”.

Of course, this rationalization is not based on logic, but on animalistic attraction. I think I don’t have to tell you that you would prevent your friend from making a terrible mistake by reminding him that a woman like that is actually the last thing he wants.  

Teach Him Everything You Know

I already told you that I used to be a very bad wingman. Well, this has a reason. When I first started to guide men, I was a student myself. I was so busy testing, failing and learning that I couldn’t be of any help.

What did I do to change that? I traveled the world, connected with women on five different continents and learned what it really means to be a great wingman. I didn’t just develop dating skills. I developed the skills to teach other men to do what I did.

Now that I walked on the path that so many other guys are afraid to walk on, I can teach, support, inspire and motivate them along their journey. Now that I walked the walk it is easy for me to guide them in the right direction.

What does that mean for you and your qualities as a wingman? You have to walk the walk. You can’t just read a book about dating and expect that your guidance will lead your friend to success. You have to put your knowledge into practice and test everything you want to teach him. Only then will you be the wingman that your friend truly needs. 

Help Him Every Step Along the way

Now that you have the knowledge that you need to help him, it’s time to keep your promise. Help him and I mean really help him. No matter how tiny his problems or how ridiculous his questions, be there for him and help him to solve the issue.

How does that look in practice?

Maybe he has confidence issues. Meditate with him and help him to become more confident by becoming one with his body and mind. Maybe he doesn’t know how to attract the opposite sex. Do everything in your power to help him to become more attractive to the opposite sex

You are his wingman and no matter if he has a hard time filling out his online dating profile, or if he needs someone to talk about his deepest fears, you are there for him. If you help him every step along the way, he will eventually find the right woman.

Encourage Him When Things Are Tough

Sometimes you get rejected. Sometimes you are on a date with a woman and you just feel that you two are not compatible. Sometimes you are totally into a girl who then tells you via text that she doesn’t feel the same. This is called reality.

The dating game is not all sunshine and rainbows. It can be, as long as you don’t give up and keep going. If you, however, lose all your motivation just because a date didn’t work out the way you expected, you will never find the love that you want and deserve.

The saying that you have to kiss a few frogs to find your prince is both true for finding princes and princesses. Let’s be realistic. Chances are high that the first person you meet won’t be the one you end up marrying.

These are the times when the psychological support of a wingman is inevitable. It is your job to encourage him when things are tough and when he doesn’t see the light at the end of the tunnel. It is your job to make sure that he keeps on going.   

Reap the Benefits

If you fulfill your duty as a counselor and a motivating force, you will both reap the benefits. If you accompany him every step along the way and encourage him to not give up, he will eventually find the woman of his dreams. I can guarantee you that.

If you asked me to name the most fulfilling thing about being a wingman, I would give you the following answer:

“The most fulfilling thing about being a wingman is to look into the eyes of a changed man.”

Of course, it is amazing to get an invitation to a wedding and you know that you are the reason why he can celebrate this day. This is ambrosia for the ego. I don’t deny that.

But to be honest, nothing is more fulfilling than looking into the eyes of a man who found love.

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We treated two single members from datemy.co.uk to a romantic date night! Who were the lucky pair? 

Paul, 58 from Kent was signed up to Date My by his daughter, Nixalina. Like most of our fellow Matchmakers on Date My, Nixalina chose some matches for her dad, eventually selecting her favourite, which was Irene. Nixalina is no amateur when it comes to this topic, she has her own dating and relationship lifestyle blog so we were excited to see how she got on playing Matchmaker...

Paul & Irene are both divorced and shared similar apprehensions about going on a date. Dating can be a nerve racking thing, epecially if you're out of practice. Irene said, “I was so nervy as had not had a date in 4 months, since a 2 year relationship. I was very apprehensive about this as I was lied to by my ex with other women on dating sites, and I mean women!”

Paul also had his own hesitations when it came to the date. He was a little apprehensive about being set up on a date by his daughter. Paul said, "I must admit, I was in two minds about a daughter's view and her taste in selecting a suitable blind date for her father, but Renee was an absolute joy."

 

The Date

It's safe to say Nixalina did a great matchmaking job! The pair enjoyed a lunch at The Bickley in Kent. 

Here's what Irene had to say about her date with Paul.

"Paul was lovely! Very engaging and not a minute of silence! We left after 3 hours so pretty good going! We chatted about our family, what we want now from life and connected well! He bought flowers and put his arm around me several times which was endearing. We’ve said we will mull over the date and keep in touch! He text me last night after the date and was really happy I showed up and was good company. I would have liked a comment on how I looked (dressed) and if he thought I was easy on the eye! Just a woman thing! He normally goes for women a little taller than me as he is 6’2 A big man!! I'm only 5’3”

It sounds as though the feeling was mutual with Paul not short of compliments for Irene, "I found Rene warm hearted, engaging with a zest for life. There was never a break in our conversation or loss of things to say during this exchange of experiences and personalities. 3 hours slipped away that seemed like just an hour. I would very much like to meet her again and obviously feels that she would like to do the same.

What a hit! It just goes to show putting your loved life into someone else's hands really does work. It's early days but we hope Paul & Irene see each other again. 

If you're hesitant to try online dating, Date My can help break down those apprehensions for you. As kindly put by Paul himself.

“I would just like to add that I think the concept of Date My is a simple, but brilliant approach. There is something accepting from a parent's point of view when their offspring have got the parents interests and happiness at heart. And if the relationship developed and had started with the "kids" involvement, then it is one less hurdle to overcome progressing from there.”

Couldn't have said it better ourselves!

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We were featured in Female First this week with our Top 10 reasons to get your Single dad a date this Father's day. Because actually whether it's Father's day or his Birthday, it can be quite tough finding a great gift for your dad. Doesn't he have enough slippers from last Christmas?! 

For those of you with single dads, the chances are you're feeling a little responsible for his happiness. Whether you were raised solely by him, or if he's newly single, you have a lot to be thankful for. Father's day is a great excuse to treat your single dad. It is after all a day that was established in honour of a father who raised 6 children as a single dad!

There are over 2 million single dads in the UK, and in London, 20,000 dads are the main carers for their children. 

So what is an ideal gift for a single dad? 

Your dad might find the idea of dating daunting. What if you could take his love life into your own hands? No one knows him better than you do. A date is the perfect Father's day gift and here are top 10 reasons why you should get your single dad a date this Father's Day.

Saves him time

Dads are busy people. Golf takes up a lot of time. A common reason for being single is not having enough time to date. Online dating has made this easier for a lot of people, with the prospect of a date just a few clicks away. However, it can still feel like a chore. You can do all of the hard work for your dad; all they have to do is turn up!

Shows You Care

Whether you're signing your dad up to Date My, or setting him up with someone offline, you'll get the chance to champion your dad and share with others the things you love about him. This beats a, "Thanks for being the best dad" mug, don't you think?

It's thoughtful & unique

A lot of thought goes behind setting up a date. You have to find a suitable match, think of a date idea and the best thing is he won't be expecting it.

Gives him a nudge

Your dad might be in a bit of a dating rut. There are endless excuses that can stop someone proactively dating and it's easy to fall into this rut. The hard part is getting out of it. That's where you come in. If your dad isn't actively dating, you can point him in the right direction with a little gentle persuasion!

It could lead to love

You might think slippers are timeless, but imagine if you found your dads future partner? This is the Father's Day gift that keeps on giving.

Builds Self Esteem

Even if you don't find him the one, the date you put your dad on will be great practice. The expectation of a date can be quite nerve racking, and the longer they put it off the worse that fear gets. This isn't the case for everyone, but giving your dad a nudge in the right direction is bound to do wonders for his self-esteem.

Better than a tie

Did you know the most popular Father's Day gift is a Tie!? Time to think outside the box a bit, he'll be grateful for it.

Shift his mind-set

Reminding your dad how great it is to be dating, rather than the negatives can help shift his mind-set completely. If he's actively dating and putting himself out there, he's more likely to meet someone just by being more approachable. So, even if he doesn't click with someone you've found, you may have created a lot more options for him, just by putting the wheels in motion.

A treat

A date can really feel like a treat, and your dad deserves one.

Make him feel special 

Finding your dad a date shows you care about his happiness. Flattery goes a long way and the chances are the nice things you say about him will make him feel great and ready to brave a date.

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