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Writing an online dating profile about yourself can be a really daunting experience. One of the biggest complaints about online dating is that after a while all the profiles begin to look the same and ultimatley the user gets bored and logs off feeling unsuccessful. So how do you grab their attention and stand out from the crowd without sounding egotistical and self-centred? An online dating profile is short and therefore amplifies anything you write and can become a character statement about you whether you intend it that way or not. You can really benefit from investing some real thought into what to write. These are the top tips we’ve assembled for writing a profile.

We think a really key idea is getting someone you love to help write it for you. It is not often peole are told what their best qualities so it can be hard to come up with some yourself. There are many qualities your loved ones see in you that you may not know about yourself. At the Matchmakers who initially write the profile are personally known by the single people. This helps to build an honest and usually more appealing profile as people find it a lot easier to write about another person than themselves.

It is best to avoid cliches at all costs, dont fall into the trap of thinking that the classic ‘one liners’ never get old, because they did. Those are the type of things that will not get you noticed by the right people. Having somene help you write your profile can often give you great and original ideas which is undoubtably going to be more interesting to read than ‘I love laughing’.

A dating profile is a snapshot - you have a limited amount of time to grab someone’s attention. Keep it short because people usually just skim read through the writing sections of a profile. You wouldn’t tell a stranger who you met in a bar your whole life story in the first instane so it should be no different online.

Often words used to describe a person are attributes which need to be proven through getting to know you, therefore, using a carefully selected selection of photos can say a lot more about yourself than a whole paragraph about yourself. Choose recent photos which you feel comfortable in and remember you can always get help from a loved on on choosing them.

Dating for people with food allergies. Is it really that much of a problem that you wish to spend the rest of your life with someone who you can connect with through the inability to eat a certain type of food?

One site has split themselves into lots of small ‘passions’ which people identify themselves by and then find others who share the same passion as them. Sounds perfect, except some examples of these 250+ passions include; a site for vampires and vampire lovers, one for people who have mullets or love people who do, and those who dedicate themselves to a life of mime or are attracted to those who do.

While most of us enjoy the odd fancy dress at special occasions such as Halloween there are sites to bring together communities  of people who enjoy dressing up, some examples are people who dress up as furry animals and a site for those who dress up as clowns (for work or personal reasons) . Another networks adults who like to spend their time wearing nappies and dressing up as babies.

A dating site for people who are already in relationships. Obviously some people find this thrilling but to actively join a website which brings together people who are interested and willing to cheat on their significant other, or to be the ‘bit on the side’, seems really bizarre to us. Infidelity should not be encouraged especially to make money. Probably the most famous of this type of site actually allows females to sign up for free, but then for a members profile to be completely removed without a trace, they must pay £15. Sneaky and mischievous, just like their target audience.

Similarly, we also found a site which allows you to upload a photo of yourself and your significant other and then people vote on which of the two of you they think can do better, with the intention of finding someone ‘better’. Ouch.

At we encourage and love the diversity of our users. The matchmakers and single people work together to write the users profile which helps to provide an honest and interesting ‘about me’.


Why not take a look and see if you can find Love on 

To celebrate London Cocktail Week we have devised a list of romantic cocktails available at some of our favourite London Cocktail bars. If you are looking for an aphrodisiac, try one of these!

Love Potion No 9 – London Cocktail Club

An amorous concoction of Bombay Sapphire gin, Spanish desert wine, pineapple and lemon.

Kilner Me Softly – Callooh Callay

Santa Teresa rum served in a wood smoked jar, mixed with a Coca-cola reduction, Fernet Branca and Bitters.

Mile High – Steam & Rye

Pampero rum, Honey syrup, lemon and bubbly.

50 Shades of Wray – Portobello Star

Wray and Nephew, whipped up with sparkling grapefruit soda, a kiss of passionfruit, then spanked with grenadine and finished with a pearl necklace of passion fruit seeds.

Once Loved – The Shop NW10

Kraken dark spiced rum, coco lopez, pineapple juice and crème de abricot (served in a vintage milk bottle).

Passionate Rose – TGIFriday

Havana Club 3 year old rum, Bols Creme de cacao and rose syrup shaken with lime juice, fresh passion fruit and passion fruit puree.

Deja Vieux for Two – Nola

Rye Whiskey married with Courvoisier Exclusif, Sweet Vermouth and Benedictine and a dash of bitters.

Valentino – Hawksmoor

Nikka 15 year old, Chocchi Torino, triple sec, cherry juice and orange bitters.

Harmony Royale – Milk and Honey

Cognac, maraschino, strawberry, lemon

Between the sheets – Artesian

Remy Martin VSOP, Plantation 3 stars, triple sec, lemon.

The Sweetest Sting - The Jam Tree

Appleton Estate VX Jamaican rum, vodka, elderflower cordial
and raspberry jam muddled with lime juice and a sprig of mint leaves.

Drunk in love? We are! Visit and help someone find Love today!

Being a single parent is hard work, not only do you have sole responsibility for your children, but it is likely you have 101 other things you have to split your time with. You may be a single parent juggling a number of small children between work and/or school, or you may have grown up children who have flown the nest or are already responsible for themselves, other than the school gates or the supermarket, where are you supposed to find the time to meet someone new? Online dating is a cheap and accessible form of meeting new people. You do not have to be online at the same time as someone to chat so it can be a great way to fit around your busy schedule.

The first step is to take the plunge and get yourself out there. Signing up to an online dating site and writing a profile can be daunting, this is why we highly recommend getting a close friend or family member to help you with; choosing photos, writing down your hobbies and interests, describing yourself and writing messages. This can be stressful enough to make you give up, but take your time, be honest, ask for help and if you need more guidance, read our previous blog about writing an online dating profile.

How often you use the dating site is going to be relevant to your success, you may find yourself overwhelmed with matches and messages, or you may be finding it difficult and unsure of what to search for yourself. We advise taking a short time out of your day, up to an hour whenever is best for you, to check your messages and reply or send requests. Many sites also show other members how recently you have been active on the site, a person who actively uses the site is going to be a more attractive option than someone who clearly doesn’t log on and check their messages. If you spend hours trawling through users you will become bored and users’ profiles will end up looking the same. is designed as a platform for people who may need a bit of help getting into online dating so we know it can be a difficult first step. Nominate someone you trust to help you by asking them to be your matchmaker, so they can help take away some of the stress of searching and make suggestions for matches whom you may not have considered. 

As a celebration of matchmaking we spoke to single mum KT Valentine about her new book, Dispatches from the Dating Zone.

What inspired you to write Dispatches from the Dating Zone?

Along time ago someone told me that some of the best writers are the ones that write about what they know. Whether that was the case or not, it got me thinking about everything I’d been through over the years and how I could draw on it for inspiration. 

I've been a single mum for almost 12 years now and over time, I've tried all kinds of ways to meet a man,  from standard internet dating to speed dating, all with mixed results. At one point I found myself wishing that I could hand over the responsibility and hassle of finding someone nice to date to my nearest and dearest, which in turn got me thinking about what could and would happen if I did. Putting pen to paper, ‘Dispatches from the Dating Zone’ was born. 

I think if you've been on the dating scene for awhile you can sometimes get a little dissilusional (ok, more than a little) and either through desperation or defeatism you just stop making the right choices for yourself. Not good looking enough. Delete. Too short. Delete. Not smiling in his profile picture. Delete. The reasons to not get in touch with the numerous matches staring back at you from your computer become ridiculous and practically throw away. Whereas, family and friends would look at those men with a completely fresh pair of eyes and perspective. The amount of times my own mother has told me she knows me better than I know myself sometimes!

So you can imagine my sheer excitement and delight when I stumbled upon - a real life dating website that incorporated the very premise of my book but removed the embarrassment of actually having to go around asking each of your friends and family in person to set you up on a blind date. And the icing on the cake is that you have an extensive source of potential matches for your matchmaker to review. No exhausting a local and limited source of single men known to your friends and family before they start scraping the bottom of the barrel, as in the case of my books main character, Fleur Summers, causing unfortunate and hilarious consequences. With a new spin on the tried and tested internet dating, isn't it something all us singletons owe ourselves to try?

What’s your debut book about?

Having exhausted all the conventional ways to meet her ‘Mr Right’ (and because now she really is a little bit desperate), single mum Fleur Summers turns to her well-meaning, but eccentric friends and family for help.

From ‘Man Mountain’; an engineer who eats everything in sight and tall dark handsome Tom with big hands but no idea how to use them, to the mysterious and brooding Henry Austin. Dispatches from the Dating Zone follows the trials and tribulations of Fleur’s journey as she works her way through a number of eventful blind dates, all in the name of finding true love.

The story focuses on love, friendship, parenthood and dating and is primarily a romantic comedy with a side order of raunchiness thrown in for good measure.

Dispatches from the Dating Zone by KT Valentine is available to buy now for 99p at

KT Valentine has given us 1 signed copy to give one new Matchmaker. Sign up to get your hands on the copy!

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